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An acquaintance didn't feel well as they
were walking home, and had an accident. Afterwards that acquaintance
still had to walk a few blocks before reaching home. The worst part
was described as the thought “what if someone will walk next to
me right now. How embarrassing!” Here is the question that in
my opinion we should all ask ourselves; why was there any shame at
all? Why was there any embarrassment? Why was there an expectation of
judgement, or rather why did they care? We all have accidents. We all
have days when we are not feeling well. Why then do we feel like we
have somehow done something wrong? In my opinion the acquaintance
should have focused on “why am I not feeling well? What
should, or could I do to make me feel better?” How
others were going to react should have been the last thing on their
mind, if at all. Instead of being first, the “I” was the
last to be thought of. The last to be concerned about. The last to be
cared for.
If in this situation it was easy to see
how the person should have been more concerned with themselves. Or
you find yourself thinking “yeah, who cares about someone
walking by”. Consider all of the times and situations in which
you were more concerned with what those around you would think than
with yourself. All of those times and situations in which you were
more concerned with the opinions of those around you than with what
you needed. Consider all of the times and situations when you were
more concerned with the opinions about you, rather than you.
Consider now, that there were two main opinions or thoughts possible.
Thought one “I'm not feeling well, I might need help”,
and thought two “I had an accident, how embarrassing I hope no
one sees me”. Likewise, two types of people may have been
attracted to cross the acquaintance's path. Someone who would have
been concerned and asked if they needed assistance, or someone who
would have possibly made a face and or a comment. Consider that the
people in both cases would simply be mirroring what the acquaintance
was feeling. They would merely be mirroring the person. Why then
choose to have shame reflected back?
Speaking of attracting interactions. A
neighborhood will be as safe or as dangerous as we want it to be. Two
people may live in the same neighborhood, on the same street, and
even on the same block. One person believes that the neighborhood is
a safe and wonderful area. A second person believes that it is unsafe
and that sooner or later something bad is going to happen. The only
reason person number two doesn't move is because they believe that
they can't and that they are stuck. They believe that they are stuck,
despite the fact that they feel unsafe and that something bad is just
a matter of time away. Sooner or later the second person's belief
will attract a mugger onto their street. The mugger is passing
through and the meeting with the second person is just a
“coincidence”, otherwise known as synchronicity. The
mugger does what he does and does something “bad” to the
person who was “just waiting for it”, thus validating the
person's beliefs and opinion of the neighborhood. The first person
comes home some time later when everything is calm. To them there was
no mugging. They are not acquainted with person number two and thus
never find out about the event. Not caring about the statistics,
which can be seen as records of manifestations, they never find out
about the mugger. To person number one, the neighborhood remains safe
and just as they have always perceived it. Each person has their
opinion reflected back to them.
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